BEEN THERE, DONE THAT
My greatest aspiration is to change the approach to how we address alcohol and other vices that we can misuse habitually to help distract us. The traditional pathway measures success by abstinence, and if you drink, you lose the one thing that signaled you were successful. People would regularly come back in the rooms of alcoholics anonymous with their heads hung low in defeat. I couldn’t figure out why since it was also suggested that relapse is inevitable. It’s part of the process.
It was only my second visit when my head was hung low, and I cried through the entire meeting. There was so much more riding on my decisions. In a letter I wrote the morning of that meeting, it is impossible to know if I was writing to alcohol or my then-boyfriend, aptly named in my first book, Wholly Sober, Prince Harming.
There was a lot of unraveling that needed to happen for me ever to come close to finding freedom.
I didn’t have that freedom with Prince Harming. I would come to learn I didn’t have that freedom in the program of A.A. As Writer’s Digest so brilliantly put in an editor’s review for Wholly Sober, “…she learns, through sheer intelligence and grit, that no one can do that (take care of her) but she herself….”
WHAT IT TAKES
Nothing brings me more joy than to hold space for women to flex their curiosity, experiment with new ideas, and explore forgotten dreams. In my humble opinion and based on my experience, this is absolutely necessary to be free of the need to misuse alcohol, food, screen time, or fill in the blank.
Being excited about life, having peace, looking forward to our future, being intentional about our direction, focus, and thoughts are keys to sober freedom. And a little reminder that sober does not mean abstinence. Learn more by reading the free download SoberRevolutionebook.com.